Evangelism and listening

tim-kellerLike any teenager nurtured in an evangelical context, I suffered from a constant, nagging sense of guilt that I was not an evangelist. If bringing other people to faith was the main task of Christians, how come I wasn’t better at it? The trouble was, whenever I tried to be an evangelist, I just ended up putting people off! I think I have come to terms with this now…but any offers of therapy still welcome.

So I was really struck by some comments made by Tim Keller in this month’s Christianity magazine. Keller is founder-leader of Redeemer Presbyterian Church in Manhattan, attended weekly by 5,000 people, but is also well-known through his writings, most notably The Reason for GodHe is one of the US Reformed pastors who are part of a movement known as ‘New Calvinism’ but I try not to let that put me off. After all, anyone who has provoked a book criticising his theology as not being Reformed enough cannot be all bad!

A key reason why his ministry has flourished in the 25 years he has been in New York is his attitude to cultural engagement.

God was helpful to me in finding a way to communicate the gospel without compromising it, but connect it to aspirations and fears and baseline personal and cultural narratives. You find out whatever the culture or person is looking to for meaning, and you show that while it is a good thing, you’ve turned it into an idol and only in Jesus Christ will that aspiration ever be fulfilled. That’s basically how you preach.

I am not sure how much this conviction is rooted in a particular theology of the world and God’s relating to it, but put this way it sounds like a good strategy because it works. This approach seems to me to have a good deal in common with the approach of Willow Creek. I remember at a conference talking to Lee Strobel, who was then a ‘teaching pastor’ at Willow Creek, and his concern was constantly to be engaging with the headline issues in US culture. It was his habit to read the top ten bestsellers in the NY Times bestseller list, and everyday to immerse himself in the local and national newspapers, so that he understood the sorts of questions Americans were interested in.

For Keller, this attentive listening is not just done in relation to culture, but also to in relation to individuals.

Everybody has got a story. If you’re able to inhabit that so well that [people] feel that you know their story better than they do, and then show in a compelling way how that story is only going to find resolution in Jesus, then they are going to find a compelling case for Christianity.

Another interesting aspect of Keller’s ministry is the way that his Calvinist outlook forces him to leave the results of ministry and evangelism to God, which looks very releasing.

How effective you’re going to be is absolutely up to the Holy Spirit. Whether you have three or four converts a year or you have 1,000, it’s nothing to do with your programming, I don’t think…It is only with the help of the Holy Spirit. I’ve seen plenty of people say ‘That’s the most persuasive presentation I’ve ever heard, but I’m not even going to touch it.’ The number of people who actually let that draw them toward Christ is something that I have no control over.

The phrase ‘inhabit that so well that [people] feel that you know their story better than they do’ reminded me of Jesus’ encounter with the woman at the well in John 4. The story is told to allow us to see the many contrasts with Jesus’ previous encounter with Nicodemus. Here we have an unnamed woman, in the day, from a group that Jesus should not have respected, and someone within that group who is ostracised—and it is Jesus who initiates the conversation. In all these points the story is the exact opposite of John 3, where a respectable, named man who is a leader, comes at night of his own initiative to enquire of Jesus. The results (within these chapters at least) is also the exact opposite; Nicodemus leaves baffled and uncomprehending; the woman tells her whole village and brings them to meet Jesus. She (and not he) becomes for the reader the model disciple.

I’ve heard this story used many times to teach us about evangelism.

  • First, notice that Jesus crosses geographical and cultural boundaries; although John 4.4 tells us that ‘he had to go through Samaria’ he clearly did not have to, unless compelled by his Father—there is a route that goes round and avoids the region. His addressing the woman directly (John 4.7) clearly shocked her, and she helpfully explains why (John 4.9).
  • Second, notice that Jesus doesn’t tell her everything at once, but leaves her wanting more. The conversation develops because he has piqued her interest.
  • Thirdly, notice the use of spiritual gifts; Jesus has a ‘word of knowledge’ (1 Cor 12.8) which takes the conversation forward.

But the thing that is usually omitted is the pastoral impact on the woman. When she goes to the village she says to those who had previously shunned her ‘He told me everything I ever did’ (John 4.39). This isn’t strictly true from the narrative, and of course, taken literally, makes no sense. But I wonder whether it illustrates the ‘deep listening’ that Keller is talking about. Here is a woman who feels as though Jesus knows her story better than she does. The proclamation of good news has not felt like an imposition, or an intrusion, but a completion of her own story.

A recent Grove booklet, by another Tim, Tim Sumpter, explores this issue along similar lines. Tim coins the word ‘evangelistening’ as a way of describing the strategy not only of Jesus but also Paul and others in the New Testament:

Jesus models a person-centred style of evangelism which starts with individuals. He not only spoke words of truth, he also embodied practical compassion, resulting in his readiness to ignore long-established cultural conventions which would have prevented him from ever meeting most of the individuals listed above. He even made it easy for people to walk away without mocking them or disparaging them in any way (Mark 10.17–27; John 6.60–69). Here was a style of evangelism free from the pushy coerciveness which some evangelists have employed, hallmarked by compassion, care, dignity and the ability to listen.

After exploring ways that this can work out in practice for individuals and churches, he highlights its value:

Evangelistening, as an evolving process, is one small attempt to repaint evangelism according to the original colours of the New Testament. It is not a panacea and does not mean we have not made mistakes; we will have made many of those on the journey so far. But alongside those, this style of evangelism has produced fruit, both in giving some Christians confidence to live more evangelistically and in helping some individuals come to Christian faith for the first time.

You might also be interested in this video by Keller from Evangelical Alliance, where he talks of the need to hold ‘deeds ministry’ and ‘word ministry’ together, and explores other issues in contemporary sharing of faith:

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7 thoughts on “Evangelism and listening”

  1. “You find out whatever the culture or person is looking to for meaning, and you show that while it is a good thing, you’ve turned it into an idol and only in Jesus Christ will that aspiration ever be fulfilled.”

    Well, I’m gay and I find meaning in my relationship with my partner and our life together. I certainly think the love we share, in all its manifestations, both physical and emotional, is a good thing. I don’t think it’s any more of an idol to me than a straight couple’s love might be to them.

    I aspire to marry and spend the rest of my life with my partner, but the Church tells me this is against God’s will. So much for my aspirations being fulfilled in Jesus Christ.

  2. ‘I don’t think it’s any more of an idol to me than a straight couple’s love might be to them.’

    I think that’s why it is important to understand Keller’s comments about idolatry. Any couple who seek to find their deepest needs met in the other rather than in Jesus are expecting too much from the relationship.

    There is some really good exploration of the issue of same-sex attraction, marriage and personal fulfilment on the website http://www.livingout.org

  3. “So much for my aspirations being fulfilled in Jesus Christ.”

    This is a very telling statement.

    The key word is “my”…

  4. It would be great if any other comments could focus on something other than gay relations. Believe it or not, there are some other things going on in the world!


  5. Love this Ian. I have found in my life that evangelism becomes more effective when it’s just part of everyday, natural ‘being’ and not a separate compartment of life! My faith is so much part of who I am that conversations start because it’s the same as having been to the supermarket last night. The listening is so much part of it because we don’t just want to share faith for love of Jesus but also for love of those we meet!

    The other thing I found fascinating (slightly off the point) was that when i was divorced I spent a couple of years ‘sorting myself out’ and didn’t attend a Church for about 2 years. During that time I would get into conversations naturally, for instance in a friend’s pub. As soon as I had answered the question about being a Churchgoer in the negative, shoulders went down and people relaxed and the conversation flowed – often with pleasing results. I have my strong opinions as to why that is!

  6. ” You find out whatever the culture or person is looking to for meaning, and you show that while it is a good thing, you’ve turned it into an idol “………………….

    Ok, let’s take the culture right here, Western culture (and spreading) where most people spend nearly all of their spare time watching the TV. The TV is an idol by any reckoning. It is the oracle of all things. But the trouble is it destroys Christianity and it is wrong to watch most of the things on it – “how can it be right to look at the things which are wrong to do?” – Tertullian on entertainment in his day. Jesus said, don’t even think about those things which are wrong to do yet most Christians enjoy their TV every night. All those lies, all that violence, all that adultery, the celebrity worship and then there is the encouragement. The encouragement to be selfish, to be wasteful, buy that new thing, you deserve it, spend your money on yourself. Keep up with the Jones’es, out do them get one up on them buy a new car!

    But the TV can be used for good you say, occasionally yes. They have the odd charity appeal or there’s songs of praise/whatever but most people watch the TV for the exciting bits. We are called to be outside of this sort of worldly nonsense. How can I tell people that their favourite pasttime, their cultural idol/oracle is a good thing? I cannot. Being Christian is being a disciple and that means following Jesus. I evangelize on the street and this is what I tell them but you may or may not be surprised to hear that Christians don’t like this message. They want their TV. Even to the point of anger will they not let go of the TV. Think about it – what’s good about it and if there is anything good about it can people ration their veiwing? Not in my experience and not according to my observations. I wouldn’t even mention this to anyone if I thought that they would grow out of their TV addiction – by the grace of God which teaches us to be Godly as Paul said. But they do not and the matter is never addressed except on rare occasions by very few pastors.

    On the other hand is the grace of God teaching me that the TV is not even an issue? Or is my conscience right to tell me that the TV, the programming on it, is mostly immoral and works against desire for us?

    • Thanks for the comment, Nemo. Nice quotation from Tertullian.

      I agree with you that we need to think more carefully about what we watch and what influences us. However, a lot of young people watch no TV at all now, since they have moved online.

      I think I would see TV addiction as a symptom of something, not the illness itself.


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